Posted: 11/1/17 by K.C. Delp (Executive Director)
21 marks the fourth anniversary of the opening of Olivia’s House
Hanover. I vividly remember the day we found our “Hanover home.” I
had closed the grief center for the night and was sitting in my car
when the email listing came across my phone. After taking one glance at
the description of the property, I turned the car off, went back inside
and made some calls. I KNEW it was to be ours!
ownership of the building at 101 Baltimore Street, formerly the Bell Insurance
building, in mid-June, and the first thing we did in our new Hanover home was
hold a staff meeting. As we gathered to strategize, our first activity
was a photo scavenger hunt. We compiled a list of questions, which each
staff member would answer with a representative photo taken in or around the
building. My favorite question was "What is something the Hanover
center offers that York doesn't?" The obvious response, for me, was a
photo of the three-car garage. I remember thinking, at the time, that it
was a great space that we could ultimately develop in accordance with the needs
of the grief center and the community.
I am delighted to
finally announce that our plans to remodel the garage space are coming to
fruition and that our Board of Directors has decided to move forward
on this renovation in the coming months. We were thrilled to collaborate with
CORE Design Group, Stewart & Tate, Bortner Bros., and Engles
& Fahs to design “The Workshop.”
It was important to
us to retain the garage-like industrial feel of this space, to signify the work
that will happen there. The design calls for:
- a glass garage
door opening into the Dane Stambaugh Serenity Garden, where our rock garden and
candle lighting rituals will take place;
- a program space
big enough for large in-service trainings; and
- the "pounding
walls" for use during the coping skills sessions of the Hearts Can Heal
We are already
dreaming of many future possibilities for this space, including hosting a Holly
Jolly Garden Party in Hanover. Stay tuned for more developments as we go
forward to improve and advance our Hanover center!
The Bricks in our Path
Posted: 10/1/17 by Michelle Fox (Administrative Director)
The Healing Garden of Hope at Olivia’s House is a peaceful space where our families may escape when they need a few moments of solitude. While visiting the garden, you will notice a brick pathway created with over 6,000 bricks. Many of the bricks are unique and special, because they are inscribed with messages to loved ones, both past and present. Every summer, Olivia’s House hosts a Commemorative Brick ceremony and invites everyone who has purchased a brick throughout the year. Friends and families gather for the ritual where they will permanently place their brick in the Healing Garden of Hope. This ritual has been taking place since we opened our doors over fifteen years ago. This beloved ritual has taken place annually since 2002, the year Olivia's House opened its doors.For fifteen years, we have been able to offer the commemorative bricks for $75. However, the cost of inscribing the bricks has increased, so it has become necessary for us to charge more for them. The minimum donation for a memorial brick will now be one hundred dollars. This price increase not only will cover the additional costs of the bricks themselves, but also will help us continue to maintain the garden as a resplendent sanctuary for all of the families who will find comfort there.If you are interested in purchasing a brick in honor or in memory of someone special to you, you can find the order form here, as well as a video showcasing the Commemorative Brick ceremony. We invite you to consider personalizing a brick for your family that can be enjoyed for many years to come! Please feel free to contact Michelle at 717-699-1133 with any questions you many have.
Posted: 9/1/17 by Leslie Delp, MA (Founder and Bereavement Specialist)
Our offices were quiet, too quiet. Ever since our precious Samantha crossed over the Rainbow Bridge to greet many of our dear friends on the other side, we have been missing the sounds of a dog in the office. K.C. was adamant that he was not ready to take on a new dog, but encouraged me to do so. My husband and I thoughtfully considered the pros and cons of getting a dog, and the pros won!
A few days later, we found Hazel online at a reputable breeder in Sideling Hill, PA, and we drove up to bring her home! It was love at first sight. She has eyes that capture your heart, a sweet disposition and a beautiful sense of calm! ("calm" is relative, of course - she is, after all, still a puppy!)
Hazel Louisa Delp has graced the offices and both of the grief centers. She has romped in the Healing Garden of Hope and in the Dane Stambaugh Serenity Garden. Many friends of Olivia's House, including some Rotarians who attended a garden reception, have met Hazel; the affection has been mutual.
We are certain that once Hazel completes her certification in Trauma Therapy, she will be a great asset to the staff and community as she lavishes warm hugs and friendship upon children and adults who are at their most vulnerable!
Posted: 8/1/17 Julia Dunn, M.Ed. (Program Director)
“But I HATE therapy!” This is something we hear from children over and over again. Why is that? When most children think of “therapy,” they picture “talk therapy” or “cognitive therapy.” While this modality of mental health treatment is appropriate for adults, a child’s brain is not as capable of using language toexpress his or her feelings.
A child’s expression comes out in creative forms, such as play, art, or music. This is why we always refer children to professional therapists in those realms (play therapy, art therapy, equine therapy, etc.). When you play into a child’s strengths, you often find that the healing is stronger!
The program team at Olivia’s House is always searching for new modalities of therapy that can help children with complicated bereavement. That very thing came our way through Dave Kot and The Bodhana Group! Dave, a longtime friend of Olivia’s House, brought us their newest approach to children’s group therapy: a tabletop role-playing game used to therapeutically work through grief and loss.
Leslie and Julia got to see this therapeutic approach firsthand as they met weekly with a group of Hearts Can Heal alumni at Comic Store West on Tuesday evenings and sat in on the therapy game, No Thank You, Evil. Through the flexible and immersive game play, the boys of the group were able to explore their grief journey from a bird’s eye view, then gain and give perspective as they worked together to problem solve, cope, and find comfort in resolution. We can’t wait to continue working with The Bodhana Group in bringing role-playing games to the forefront of cutting-edge therapy!
Grief Affects Us All
Posted: 7/1/17 by K.C. Delp (Executive Director)
As some of you may know, we recently lost
one of the best staff members our mission has ever had. In May, our pet therapy
dog, greeter, and all around best buddy, Samantha, crossed the rainbow
I adopted my Sammy-girl when I was trying to figure out how
to be an "adult." I had moved into my York City apartment and was
living on my own for the first time. She needed me and I needed her. We were
not quick to love each other, but the bond grew deeper than I ever thought
I always believed when Sam’s time concluded I would be okay.
I would find comfort knowing she had lived an incredibly charmed life. Working
at the grief center, I would surely model positive mourning. I can now admit
how wrong I was!
I can vividly recall the extreme anxiety
I experienced when simply going to the bank. Everyone at the York Traditions
drive-thru window knew Sammy, and the thought of explaining why she wasn’t in
the back of the Jeep without breaking into tears was enough to shatter my
confidence. To be honest, I avoided taking that deposit for at least three
days. We say it every day at Olivia’s House: “bereavement is hard work.” I avoided
being at home, I struggled at work, and my new routine was uncomfortable.
As a staff, we know that our own losses
help to provide perspective as we support our families. I found comfort from my
friends and family, and my “new normal” began to feel more natural. No, I have
not wiped her nose marks off the back of the Jeep’s headrest yet, but I can now
look at them and smile. I share this experience not for any other reason than
to give merit to the bereavement process. It does not discriminate, there are
no shortcuts, and it isn’t simple… but it gets easier!